If your baby starts crying regularly at the end of the day or in the evening, and it lasts for long minutes or even hours, this is normal. It is most often discharge crying. With his parents, the infant has confidence and he knows that he can express himself without fear. The discharge crying can be a way for him to communicate the different emotions felt during his day and to express a need for reassurance. But it can also be a sign of a lack of comfort or pain. To succeed in come to the end of these tears, we must first understand its origin. Since this is not always obvious, let’s review the different techniques to try to calm discharge crying and other evening crying.
Calm shock crying by responding to baby’s need for contact
In the evening, the pace of the day slows down and when we try to calm our child, he suddenly starts crying for no reason. However, when a baby cries, we tend to think that he may be hungry or that his diaper needs to be changed. If this is not the case and his basic needs are a priori met, your baby is trying to express something else. This is where discharge crying comes in.
Let’s take stock of your child’s day to understand. He must have heard voices and noises, seen lights or smelled new smells. He then needs to express all of this. He has accumulated emotions and needs to externalize this excess with people with whom he feels totally trusted.
So that’s why baby cries at night. He is overcome by a wave of emotions and needs to express it to you in his own way. Even if it is not easy to bear the persistent cries of an infant, tell yourself that he surely expresses a need for contact and to be reassured. So first try to skin to skin or wear it as a sling and of talk to him softly. You can also try to distract him going out for a walk or giving it a bath.
Soothe baby’s discharge crying with swaddling
If swaddling is sometimes criticized, the practice has interesting virtues for infants. Let us not forget that your baby was recently in your womb with the famous “fetus” position: folded limbs, warm and with a limited possibility of movement. Swaddling can remind him of this cocoon he had been in a few weeks or months before, which calms him down.
On the other hand, the slight compression caused by swaddling can be very beneficial for infants with separation anxiety. In the arms, the baby is surrounded and held by you while lying on a mattress, he may feel exposed, as if he is no longer protected. The fact of being slightly compressed by the swaddling therefore has a reassuring effect on some children. It is the same sensation experienced by adults who cannot fall asleep without feeling the weight of a quilt on them.
Check to see if the discharge crying is actually a sign of heat discomfort
If despite your hugs, your reassuring words or an attempt to swaddle, the shock crying is still there, it may be that baby is trying to express something other than a need for reassurance.
It is possible that your child is simply showing the signs of an excess or on the contrary of a lack of heat. The reflex is to check the baby’s extremities by touching his hands and feet. If they are a little cold, it is easy to understand that it is necessary to cover it more. The problem arises rather in the opposite situation, because we fear much more regularly that baby is cold and we want to protect him by dressing him warmly. Therefore, we hesitate to find out. Then to make sure that baby is not too hot, first touch the back of his neck, it will be much more meaningful than with its ends.
A hot or even sweaty neck accompanied by prolonged crying is a sign that baby is overly covered.
Make sure crying is not caused by pain when massaging baby
You have made sure that the baby has eaten enough, a clean diaper, that he is neither too hot nor too cold, and attempts to reassure him are unsuccessful. What to do ? Once again, if all of your infant’s vital needs are met and skin-to-skin contact doesn’t help, the cause is certainly somewhere else. What you think is discharge crying may actually be the expression of pain.
Many infants have colic or digestive discomfort, and crying is the only way they can express it and get help. try place your baby on her stomach while you are watching it, it will then move and attempt to push with its legs and feet while its abdomen is in contact with the surface it is lying on. This will have a massaging action on his stomach and it can relieve him.
You can also massage your baby directly over the pajamas or onto the skin with baby oil. Hot water helps to relax, a bath accompanied by massages may therefore be a good idea.
How long does discharge crying last and when to worry?
Relief crying and the need for reassurance gradually increase around 2-3 weeks and are most intense around 6 weeks baby. They generally subside after 3 months. During this period, he has an enormous need for security and to be in the arms or in contact with his parents. However, when the frequency and intensity of the cries is too important, one can quickly worry and wonder about the “normality” of the phenomenon. A good indicator for know when to see a doctor is based on the rule of 3. If the evening crying lasts more than 3 hours, at least 3 times a week and that it lasts more than 3 weeks, a medical opinion is not useless.
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