This was stated by the family therapist and psychologist Martiño Rodríguez, a researcher at the Institute for Culture and Society (ICS) of the University of Navarra and president of the Spanish Association for Research and Development of Family Therapy (AEI + DTF).
As he explained, “it is one of the few models of therapy that have scientific backing.” “It is based on attachment theory and helps the couple members feel secure in the relationship. It seeks to generalize effective and communicative dynamics that strengthen ties ”, has detailed.
In this line, he explained that this therapy “tries to help people to face a stressful circumstance, such as the state of alarm, we feel close to each other, together we face what scares us and makes us suffer.”
Martiño Rodríguez leads the first international clinical trial to validate TFE in Spanish-speaking countries. The project, co-led by Brigham Young University (USA), began in March with the recruitment of couples in Guatemala and Argentina, the University of Navarra explained in a statement.
The expert has also referred to the increase in divorce consultations after the confinement that the Spanish Association of Family Lawyers (AEAFA) has confirmed. “The pandemic has put great stress on many couples. In addition to the situation of uncertainty, 24-hour coexistence, difficulties at work, and in many cases, family reconciliation has been added, “he said.
However, he has declared that a peak will necessarily take place because “as it will happen with many other aspects during de-escalation, we will return to things that have not been allowed.” “You could not ask about the divorce and it was not the time to propose a separation because the coexistence could not be stopped,” he said.
As he explained, the “experience” of the professionals is that “the problems that have been experienced in these months are similar to those that were seen before, although elements that hinder their management have been added.”
“We have not had the recourse to leave home, walk, chat with other people … Taking a distance and focusing on another task helps us to see things with perspective,” he added. As he has indicated, to this has been added uncertainty about work, health or the immediate future.
“There are so many open fronts that the energy is not found to take steps aimed at facing difficulties in the relationship,” he asserted.
With regarding the signs that it is advisable to seek external help, ICS psychologist and therapist point out that one clue may be “the experience of a difficulty that is generating a lot of suffering and instead of finding a way to resolve it that strengthens and brings its members closer, it increasingly distances them more. ”
All in all, the expert from the University of Navarra encourages taking the experience of these months with a certain perspective. “It is a very particular situation and although the relationship has deteriorated, you should not put yourself at the worst; perhaps there will be an improvement when external circumstances are normalized ”, he commented.
As he explained, “if it does not happen in this way, perhaps there has been damage that does require professional help.” “You can make the first consultation and assess whether you need to continue therapy or not,” she concluded.